It’s been a couple weeks since I watched Oprah interview Don Miguel Ruiz, the author of The Four Agreements and even though I read the book years ago, I’ve been rehashing that interview segment ever since. His book is actually on my website’s list of recommended books (under resources). Why? Because it deals with that aspect of health and wellness that has nothing to do with food or exercise but a way of living that can lead us to happiness and love.
Something Oprah admitted got me to re-examine my take on and implementation of The First Agreement – Be Impeccable with Your Word. Basically, I am spot on and have no difficulty with that agreement – as long as it involves someone else. If I have said I will do something, come hell or high water, I will do it! Here’s the rub. That, for me, (and for Oprah too apparently) is a whole lot easier than doing what I said I would do when it involves me.
Over the holidays I let some of my daily practices kind of slip a little. You all know the drill. Life gets busy, there is so much to get done without any extra hours in the day so we look for little things that we can leave out. For me that was exercise. There is really no excuse for that. The exercise I’m talking about is a little routine I do in the mornings with a 12lb. bar that I keep in my bathroom. Basically, it takes 15 minutes and I typically run through the routine 4 times a week. It is an integral part of my personal health routine. As we get older we are losing small muscle mass – not a good thing. Weight work not only helps retain small muscle mass but is also important in bone health. It can boost energy levels, improve your mood, and help improve balance, coordination, and posture. So, for me, it’s an important part of my journey to good health.
Had I scheduled my workout with someone else I probably would have stuck to the routine because I had given my word – to someone else. However,I was not being impeccable with my word – to me. And, I think, that is the point Don Miguel Ruiz was making. To feel happy and at peace, to love yourself, you must be impeccable with your word to yourself. Then you can spread that love to the rest of the world.
This is absolutely what I want my clients to get. Honor yourself. Do what you say you’re going to do that will benefit you. Love yourself. You are worth it. In Don Miguel’s words, “impeccability means without sin. Self rejection is the biggest sin that you commit.” Our word is the most important and powerful gift we have. Use it to tell yourself how good you, how worthy you are. When you are impeccable with your word you’ll feel uplifted, peaceful, and filled with joy – the beginning step to a life of wellness and health. You can eat all the right foods and exercise all day long, but without inner peace and joy – that life of wellness and health that you want will remain elusive.
Note to self: Be impeccable with your word!